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Monday, January 16, 2006

Help him to find the words

I received an email from a young man recently, who's at a loss for words when it comes to revealing his love for someone special.

Here's a portion of his email:

"I have a friend that I care and love very much and I want to tell the whole world how much I care and love her but I cannot do so. I hope you can post my request to all the readers in your posting to help me to tell my fren how much I care and love her."

So come on boys and girls, let's help this guy out. What can he do to tell or show her he loves her? Post a comment or email me if you have some long winded instructions.

Till next time, this is Kucing Gatal signing out with a caring Meow.


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    By Blogger tigerjoe, at January 16, 2006 11:08 AM  

  • Before we start dishing out advice, the young man should clarify two questions first:

    1) Does he care whether or not the friend holds the same feelings for him?
    2) Does the friend appear to hold the same feelings for him?

    Question 2 is especially important, and the young man should observe and talk to his friend very carefully over a period of time to determine the answer.

    If the answers are NO-NO then he can always blog about it his feelings. His friend might not be too happy about it, but that's a different story altogether.

    If the answers are YES-NO, It might be a good idea to preserve the friendship first and foremost. Trust me on this one, you have to let these things develop over time, there's just no rushing it.

    By Blogger tigerjoe, at January 16, 2006 11:10 AM  

  • I've been in similar situations, and I really think it depends on the type of person your friend is.

    For me, friends whom I liked/loved in that way were fortunately openminded and accept the fact that such things may develop over time in friendships, the closer you get to the other person. I had no problems pouring my heart out to them, knowing that the friendship will still be preserved in the process. Having said this, however, things MAY change in the friendship, as both sides may be more on their guard, as not to hurt/get hurt by the other person again.

    Some of my guy pals were less nice. According to them, if the girl can't accept your confession without breaking off the friendship, then she isn't worth your friendship in the first place.

    For me, it was a good feeling getting it off your chest, plus if you're somehow rejected, at least you can move on with life.

    All the best! :)

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at January 16, 2006 7:04 PM  

  • Addressed to the guy:

    I don't know why you cannot reveal your feelings to her, but I'm guessing that it has something to do with her being a friend and you not wanting to be rejected should you cross that line and ask for a bit more. Well, all I can offer is this piece of advice then: Just be brave and don't falter even if you are rejected. If you care for her then show and be adamant that you want to be with her so that you can take care of her.

    While the "tell her your feelings" things usually said by girls are often a bunch of bull (no offense meant to any females, it's just my personal opinion), sometimes it can unintendedly bring about unexpected results. But like the other commenters have previously mentioned, observe her actions and words carefully and see if the feelings are reciprocal or not before doing so.

    If it is, go for it, dude, pounce on her now! (Heh.) If not, tread carefully.

    Be that as it may, you're within the vicinity of the Brotherhood of Men, so we're all supporting ya!

    By Blogger xaph, at January 17, 2006 3:01 AM  

  • And remember, just in case she just wants to be friends and you DON'T want to prolong the inevitable hurting by being "just friends", here's a phrase many men use: "I have enough friends."

    Pretty cool, eh? ^_^

    By Blogger xaph, at January 17, 2006 3:03 AM  

  • I can express my love for her anytime..and she know tht i love her.. I just need your help out there to help me to tell her tht i love her...thank you very much for all the comments by all the readers out there.
    Thank you specially to kucing gatal..

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at January 17, 2006 5:29 PM  

  • Actually you don't have to do anything spectacular. Sometimes the smallest things can turn out to be the most romantic, like little love notes left here and there, special meals cooked by you for her, foot massages by you, watching her favourite movie with her over and over again, etc ... :)

    If you want something more special, I heard of a story where this guy prepared a huge banner proclaiming his love and hung it out of her window for her to see when she came home (and for the rest of the world to see too).

    By Blogger Kucing Gatal, at January 17, 2006 5:34 PM  

  • thank you kucing... actually that is what i plan to do to tell the whole world i love her but by a smaller scale.tht is why i'm asking all of your readers to help me to tell her tht I love her...
    I would love to hang a banner at her home but i don't think so at this present moment cos crime rate is so high neighbours might think i'm a cat burlar....:)thank you for the idea kucing..

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at January 17, 2006 7:33 PM  

  • how about saying it with flowers, depending on your creativity...please no bunga kekwa or carnations....champagne roses would do nicely. old trick, works the charm each time....

    By Anonymous curiousmind, at January 18, 2006 7:52 AM  

  • pen merah pen biru
    jangan marah i love you

    oldie but goldie.

    By Anonymous aku, at January 18, 2006 3:17 PM  

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