From self-assured to simpering, just for a man

I cannot stand simpering idiots, and by that I specifically mean girls who are in actual fact smart, but act stupid or manja around their boyfriends to get attention.

I know this girl, let's call her C. She has both beauty and brains, and can debate world economics with you just as easily as she can gush over how cute Orlando Bloom is in his latest movie.

C recently found herself a new man (A). He's not terribly good-looking but boy does he ooze charm. He can charm the pants off even the iciest maiden. He's left a string of broken hearts behind him, and really, I don't know what C sees in him but then again love is blind. He must have charmed her into falling for him.

Anyway, C told me that A prefers his women to be simple and fawning - well, not in those exact words but I kind of caught the gist. Basically he wants a woman who will agree with everything he says, laugh at all his jokes and let him make all the decisions.

I find it incredible that C still wants to be with A despite knowing this. She, who has a strong opinion on everything and isn't afraid to voice it, is willing to be a doormat just for him.

I suppose it has something to do with the fact that C has been single for a couple of years now after having her heart brutally broken by a real bastard. I shall spare you the details of her previous relationship but just know that he was physically abusive towards the end and she basically threw him out. She's the kind to stand up for herself and not take crap from anyone.

Still, for her to do an about turn and go out with someone seeking a bimbotic girlfriend is hard for me to digest.

I went out with both of them recently and noticed how C has changed. Whatever A said, she would share his opinion. She would giggle at every funny thing he said or did, and she would talk in that irritating manja manner. For example, "Sayang, bila nak pergi shopping dengan I, I boring lah duduk kat rumah," she would complain in a sing-song voice and pout. And he would respond in an equally nauseating manner. "Don't worry darling, this weekend kita pergi shopping ok? I nak beli komputer baru. Kita pergi Sg Wang Plaza ok?"

I know C hates that place, she finds it full of ah bengs and ah liens who like to talk loudly and push their way around if there's a crowd. And she hates crowds too.

The old C would have said, "Sg Wang Plaza??? Over my dead body! I hate that place. Let's go to Midvalley instead."

But the new C simply batted her eyelashes and said, "Oh, boleh, I pun ingin nak pergi sana, I nak beli jeans."

"I beli untuk you lah, darling. Anything you want, just tell me," he cooed back at her.

Gah! I cannot stand the simpering! When did C become such an annoying twit?

Maybe she doesn't want to lose A. Maybe he is a gem of a person. Hell, maybe he's great in bed. Always give the benefit of the doubt if you don't know the full story.

But for now, I will steer clear of C until her mind returns and she's back to her old self.

Till next time, this is Kucing Gatal signing out with an anti-simpering Meow.