Kucing Gatal Speaks

Monday, December 05, 2005

From self-assured to simpering, just for a man

I cannot stand simpering idiots, and by that I specifically mean girls who are in actual fact smart, but act stupid or manja around their boyfriends to get attention.

I know this girl, let's call her C. She has both beauty and brains, and can debate world economics with you just as easily as she can gush over how cute Orlando Bloom is in his latest movie.

C recently found herself a new man (A). He's not terribly good-looking but boy does he ooze charm. He can charm the pants off even the iciest maiden. He's left a string of broken hearts behind him, and really, I don't know what C sees in him but then again love is blind. He must have charmed her into falling for him.

Anyway, C told me that A prefers his women to be simple and fawning - well, not in those exact words but I kind of caught the gist. Basically he wants a woman who will agree with everything he says, laugh at all his jokes and let him make all the decisions.

I find it incredible that C still wants to be with A despite knowing this. She, who has a strong opinion on everything and isn't afraid to voice it, is willing to be a doormat just for him.

I suppose it has something to do with the fact that C has been single for a couple of years now after having her heart brutally broken by a real bastard. I shall spare you the details of her previous relationship but just know that he was physically abusive towards the end and she basically threw him out. She's the kind to stand up for herself and not take crap from anyone.

Still, for her to do an about turn and go out with someone seeking a bimbotic girlfriend is hard for me to digest.

I went out with both of them recently and noticed how C has changed. Whatever A said, she would share his opinion. She would giggle at every funny thing he said or did, and she would talk in that irritating manja manner. For example, "Sayang, bila nak pergi shopping dengan I, I boring lah duduk kat rumah," she would complain in a sing-song voice and pout. And he would respond in an equally nauseating manner. "Don't worry darling, this weekend kita pergi shopping ok? I nak beli komputer baru. Kita pergi Sg Wang Plaza ok?"

I know C hates that place, she finds it full of ah bengs and ah liens who like to talk loudly and push their way around if there's a crowd. And she hates crowds too.

The old C would have said, "Sg Wang Plaza??? Over my dead body! I hate that place. Let's go to Midvalley instead."

But the new C simply batted her eyelashes and said, "Oh, boleh, I pun ingin nak pergi sana, I nak beli jeans."

"I beli untuk you lah, darling. Anything you want, just tell me," he cooed back at her.

Gah! I cannot stand the simpering! When did C become such an annoying twit?

Maybe she doesn't want to lose A. Maybe he is a gem of a person. Hell, maybe he's great in bed. Always give the benefit of the doubt if you don't know the full story.

But for now, I will steer clear of C until her mind returns and she's back to her old self.

Till next time, this is Kucing Gatal signing out with an anti-simpering Meow.


  • Send the girl over. I have single men who like strong women who can stand up for themselves. Sounds bad

    By Blogger Resurrected, at December 05, 2005 7:59 AM  

  • There is only one rational explanation. Great cunnilingus skills.

    With the up-and-down lapping strokes, the side-to-side finger movement and circling action.

    Toe-curling, bedsheet-grasping, shoulder-biting stuff.

    Never had it on a regular basis? Well that's why you are not a "simpering idiot" yet.

    By Anonymous aw, at December 05, 2005 11:06 AM  

  • Probably suffering from low self esteeem from the previous breakup. I would stay away from them too.

    By Blogger sic6sense, at December 05, 2005 11:52 AM  

  • hahahaha!! sounds VERY much like any typical lovey-dovey couple lar. ;) give it some time, after all the keyword is NEW, no?

    By Anonymous yvy, at December 05, 2005 12:50 PM  

  • hehehehe...from what you wrote " I want to buy a new computer" and "I'll get you anything you want", my best bet is he's damn rich :-) that's why your 'smart friend' acted stupid :-) after all... she's smart ain't she?

    and that benefit of doubt of yours, might truly be real as well :-)

    By Anonymous slightly_disturbed, at December 05, 2005 2:59 PM  

  • Aiyoo..! Kesian lar C. Maybe C feels under pressure to get back into the game again.
    Maybe this is true love. We'll do anything for love. Or so they say....;)

    By Blogger plink, at December 05, 2005 5:10 PM  

  • ..or MAYBE...C realised that it's also fun to manja even though you're smart and it's fun to act stupid SOMETIMES? C reminds me of myself, somehow. But of course I don't give in all the timelah. At the start of my relationship, I was stubborn..no means no...ppl pujuk also susah...nak manja lagi susah. But now, I learnt the art of manja-ing and pretending to be the weaker one sometimes and it's nice. Of course, the BF knows that I'm smart and he knows that I manja also coz I can get things my way better than when I scream like a pontianak. LOL. But I dun think my relationship was ever as nauseating as how you described C's current one. Heh. Mine is healthy. Hers sound like a rship bound to break soon. I sure hope things will go fine.

    By Anonymous S-Kay, at December 05, 2005 5:27 PM  

  • I sooo agree with s-kay. Infact BF prefers me to be manja only to him, just so he know that I'm special to him. And this is the childish manja that if god forbid I do that in front of my frined, they would want to sepak me right off the bat.
    Then again the BF knows he could have an intellectual discussion with me and I could be right down matured and smart when I have to. So yeah, if I understand the situation right, C is just being a normal erm, girlfriend?

    By Anonymous bushei, at December 05, 2005 6:40 PM  

  • hehehhe..I think C was like that all the way, only you, KG did'nt realise it until you saw her in action with her kind..it might last..we'll never know.....
    oh..Hi Sic:D

    By Blogger BLaCkFeLiNe, at December 05, 2005 6:59 PM  

  • Resurrected: I think it'll be hard to wean her off A for now :)

    Aw: Perhaps!

    Sic6sense: She didn't really suffer low self-esteem - well not that I noticed, but now that I think about it, it could be the case.

    Yvy: If I'm ever like that in public, feel free to bitch slap me. I can't stand the manjafied manner in which lovey dovey couples coo at each other!

    Slightly_disturbed: Actually he's not rich. He's doing OK, but isn't minting money.

    Plink: Well, that's the thing - she wasn't really looking for a man and didn't really believe in true love anymore. Plus it's so out of character for her. I'll give it time, see if she reverts to her good old self :)

    S-kay: Please tell me you don't act this way in front of friends!

    Bushei: If she does it alone with him, she can be as manjafied as she wants and I couldn't care less. But in front of me, gah!

    Blackfeline: Trust me, she has never been this way :)

    By Blogger Kucing Gatal, at December 05, 2005 7:21 PM  

  • s-kay: I know what you mean. I can manja with the best of them... sometimes. And KG, no smart remarks either.... ;)
    *puts on bitchslap-proof hat*

    By Blogger plink, at December 05, 2005 8:17 PM  

  • *rubs hand in anticipation to bitch slap KG, however feels that it will never happen* =P

    By Anonymous yvy, at December 06, 2005 12:52 PM  

  • NO WAY...I paling benci couples being damn freaking mushy in front of friends. I have a couple (my friends) like that and it's damn annoying. So annoying that me and the BF would act the whole scene out and laugh our heads off about it. LOL. We act like normal loving couples in public.

    By Anonymous S-Kay, at December 06, 2005 3:05 PM  

  • But like what Bushei said, the BF can have an intellectual conversation with me anytime and usually, we would end up in a heated arguments..macam some national debate competition only =P I dun even hug him in front of his parents (cept the other time when I picked him up from the airport and the mom said, "Go hug Siew Keng go" after he hugged both his parents) and if we hold hands in public with his family around in the mall, we'd always be walking behind them. Kekoklah somehow.

    By Anonymous S-Kay, at December 06, 2005 3:10 PM  

  • skay : u n me alike. feel funny, dunno why oso. ;) at least i know i'm not alone. LOL =P

    By Anonymous yvy, at December 06, 2005 4:51 PM  

  • Well, there's nothing wrong about being a couple, being manja and at the same time being proud about it. The only people who would think that it's bad are the ones who can't be or can't find somebody to be as such. It's not about being smart or professional or whatever. After all, considering that most of the `smart ass professional ladies' out there are still singles, who do you think is smart after all? So what's the harm of acting dumb, like a bimbo etc with somebody whom you love and loves you? To hell with other people who would turn green with envy. Sometimes you just have to be selfish and enjoy what you have. Try to appease others too much and you'd end up as another statistic in the List Of Anak Dara Tua...

    By Blogger manwoman, at December 06, 2005 5:13 PM  

  • Horny and kinky, you're missing the point - nobody is jealous that they're a couple. But I am wondering why C has turned into a manjafied bimbo and displays that kind of behaviour in front of me when she knows that she is likely to get a mental slap from me. If a couple wants to indulge in baby talk with each other or go all googly-eyed and mushy when looking at each other, well and good - just don't do it in front of me. It's just nauseating! A couple that wants to hold hands, kiss, rub each other's back, smile seductively at each other, I have absolutely no problems with. But the manja thing is what drives me nuts!

    By Blogger Kucing Gatal, at December 06, 2005 5:19 PM  

  • Oh and by the way, the statement that "After all, considering that most of the `smart ass professional ladies' out there are still singles, who do you think is smart after all?" will probably piss off a lot of 'smart ass professional ladies' who choose to be single - not everyone sees the need to be part of a couple ;)

    By Blogger Kucing Gatal, at December 06, 2005 5:34 PM  

  • social decorum, thats why!

    By Blogger sic6sense, at December 06, 2005 5:41 PM  

  • PDRM- Public Display of Random Manja-ness....:P
    Sorry, I missed the point. Manja is OK in private, but I half-suspect that couples deliberately PDRM because they know it makes us uncomfortable.
    Why our friends so bad?
    Of course, one day I'll be found PDRMing. Then kena bitchslap pulak. ;)

    By Blogger plink, at December 06, 2005 6:38 PM  

  • public display of affection is so different than public display of manja-ness la!

    affection = ok.
    manjaness = ko.

    i think it's the fact that it's SO pretentious (to others OTHER than the 2 involved) that it's suffocating la!

    wat's worse. it wont stay that way forever. and don't we all know it. (ha!)

    i cant really stand people who are so manja-manja that it's all gooey and sticky-like. and clingy like too... and drawls too!
    (eg. aaaaalaaaaaaa (drawl) U ni la... benci (drawl) betol laaaaarrrrrr (nasal drawl emminent, add palm movement on the other person or twirling of hair).

    but each to its own, i guess.
    but sure irritates me tho.

    By Blogger dee3, at December 06, 2005 6:54 PM  

  • my last two ex-girlfriends were also manja queens.

    "dear dearrrr... carry me off the bed larrrrr..."

    Now that I think back about it.... puke, puke, puke! ARRGGGHHHHHHHHH.

    I will not go out with girls who have more soft toys than she has books, and calls me "dear dear" EVERRRRRRR again!!!!!!!!

    KG & s-kay & etc: I agree. There is manja and there is too much manja, esp in public. bleeearrrrgghhhhhhhhhhhh. goose pimples x 1000000.

    Yours purringly,

    By Anonymous aw, at December 07, 2005 12:24 AM  

  • Kucing Gatal, if you are wondering why C has 'turned into a manjafied bimbo', and its eating you BIG time, why don't you just go ahead and ask her? ;)

    I reckon that she is 'playing the dude'. This pretty lil thing has the 'not-so-smouldering-gent' around her pinkie.

    He suffers in the looks department and in self confidence apparently - judging his insistence in buying her 'anything she wants'.

    C, on the other hand, is the smart cookie here. She seems to know his 'achilles heel' and is willing to 'manja', pander his ego and in return, he is raring to spend whatever dosh he has on her. Looks like a case of 'willing donor, willing recipient'..somewhat grating to watchers-on, but heck, they both know what they are doing and are simbiotically 'molly-coddling' each other for mutual benefits.

    By Anonymous Marko, at December 07, 2005 1:46 AM  

  • Extreme PDA makes me puke. A friend of mine goes, "Sayang..blablablabal" and it's like euuuuuuuuuuuu.....and then she will merajuk tak tentu pasal in front of friends..like hello?? Jaga his water face abitlah...

    Horny&Kinky : Kucing was talking about C's extreme display of public affection which is nauseating. Even I, who have a great bf and a happy rship don't do dat in public weh. It's like...you really don't need the whole world to know that you're damn lovinglah kan?

    Yvy : High '5

    By Anonymous S-Kay, at December 07, 2005 2:35 PM  

  • Please let Lin Peh know when she is available ;-)

    By Blogger Lin Peh, at December 07, 2005 4:59 PM  

  • "If a couple wants to indulge in baby talk with each other or go all googly-eyed and mushy when looking at each other, well and good - just don't do it in front of me. It's just nauseating! A couple that wants to hold hands, kiss, rub each other's back, smile seductively at each other, I have absolutely no problems with. But the manja thing is what drives me nuts! - Kucing Gatal"

    Very, very true, Kucing.

    Physical acts of love are fine with me too, but keep the romantic verbiage for later. Keep the verbal mushiness for non-public places. Because it's sickening, and err, geli lah.

    By Blogger xaph, at December 08, 2005 11:53 AM  

  • Yala, geli betul. Damn fake. As if trying to make a public statement. Nobody'd be jealous of such nauseating scenes, really. Drives people up the wall, hell yeah. There're other (more practical) ways to display affection in public. Save the mushy stuff for the night, behind doors.

    Think C's letting her guards (and uhm, pants, too?) down on this guy. Like totally submissive, desperate ke?

    By Blogger narrowband, at December 13, 2005 4:05 PM  

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