An email from a troubled reader:
Kucing - first and foremost, i believe salutations are in order: happy 2007 & may this be your best year yet. have been lurker on your blog for quite a while now, it's great to see you continuing after your hiatus. in any case, here's a little something i thought you can help me with. i have a query that perhaps fellow readers can help answer. no, am also not discounting the fact that you might have a solution too!
i've noticed of late that sex tends to be a relatively quick affair. i don't claim to be a stud, i'm not god's gift to womenkind but i don't think that i'm a complete dud either. i used to be able to at least hold a lovemaking session beyond more than just a couple of strokes. however, the past few month's encounters have been dissatisfyingly short & I'd cum after a few minutes (which is a shame because i truly enjoy sex. then again, who doesn't but let's not get into that!). Now, i'm a spring chicken no longer but i do consider myself relatively fit for someone in his mid 30s. i thought men's propensity for premature ejaculation decreases with age. The intensity is still the same its just that I'm not able to control my cum as well as before. maybe you can help post this for sharing with your readers & see what they think. would welcome all advise & solutions. keep meowing!
cheers
krayyonkidd
Kucing Gatal says:
Dear Krayyonkidd,
First of all, apologies for responding to your letter so late. Been totally busy these last few weeks.
Now on to your problem. I'm assuming that you don't have any erection problems, just ejaculation problems - correct me if I'm wrong.
You're in your mid-30s which isn't old at all, so we can't blame old age for this problem. And you're obviously well experienced and get lots of sex, so it can't be because you've abstained for months and the sexual pleasure is too much to bear for your little friend.
In situations like this, where I do not have the answers in my mind (it's been somewhat vacuous recently), I turn to the God of Everything-You-Need-To-Know. Google.
And Google showed me the answers.
Potential causes of premature ejaculation:
- A side effect of taking certain drugs - even over-the-counter ones such as cold pills.
- Stress on the job or in a relationship
- A serious psychological condition such as obsessive-compulsive disorder
- A result of a physical problem, such as a urinary tract infection.
- Haven't learned to manage their bodies' reactions properly during sexual arousal (which I think is safe to rule out in your case, Krayyonkidd).
Possible solutions:
- Stop the drugs (jauhkan diri daripada dadah, even over-the-counter ones)
- Take a holiday if you're stressed
- Don't focus only on your own enjoyment - take the time to pleasure your partner too
- Apparently there's a Velcro-type device available in the market. It's called a testicular restraint and the idea is to restrain the testicles from their natural tendency to move during sex, which helps some men delay ejaculation. Good luck trying to get it past our vigilant customs officials ("Apa benda ni?")
- Here's a toughie - try not to think about sex when you're having it. Occupy your mind with something else, such as whether nasi lemak tastes better with a sliver of hard boiled egg or a pathetic little omelette scrap. Of course, the downside (heh heh) to this is pretty obvious. For those who are slow, I mean you could lose your erection.
- Wear a condom - makes your penis less sensitive
- See your doctor if you suspect it could be a physical or psychological problem
Climaxing too fast is no fun to both parties involved - it's an embarrassing, frustrating and disappointing problem. I hope that these solutions can help you regain control and stop your willy from spewing early.
Any readers out there who had this problem and found a way to solve it? Krayyonkidd would love to hear your solutions!
Hope this helps,
Kucing Gatal
Till next time, this is Kucing Gatal signing out with a mature Meow.
