The News

A few days ago someone special called to wish me a Happy New Year.

"You're a couple of weeks late," I told him coldly.

"Ya I know, sorry, been busy." He sounded truly apologetic. "What have you been up to?"

"Nothing much. Same old routine really."

"I see. Hey, want to have dinner?" The words came out in a rush.

I paused. I wanted to, but I knew I shouldn't, from past experience.

"Err..." I started.

"Doesn't have to be tonight," he said hurriedly. "Whenever you're free."

"I don't know ..."

A long pause.

"Kucing, I'm sorry about what happened before. I really am."

"Listen, I got to go, there's someone at the door," I lied, then hung up.

I didn't want to be sucked into his little world of lies and deceit again. To think I had been so easily manipulated before.

A few minutes later an SMS from him came through. "Forgive me please."

I thought about it for a few minutes, then replied, "OK." I would forgive him, but I wouldn't repeat my mistakes.

The phone rang almost immediately. It was him.

"Thanks for being so understanding. I really appreciate it!"

"Yeah, OK."

"Kucing, actually I called to tell you something. I wanted to tell you over dinner, but can't wait. And I wanted you to be the first to know."

"What?"

There was a slight pause before he spoke.

"I'm getting married."

" ... "

Till next time, this is Kucing Gatal signing out with a sombre Meow.

Help him to find the words

I received an email from a young man recently, who's at a loss for words when it comes to revealing his love for someone special.

Here's a portion of his email:

"I have a friend that I care and love very much and I want to tell the whole world how much I care and love her but I cannot do so. I hope you can post my request to all the readers in your posting to help me to tell my fren how much I care and love her."

So come on boys and girls, let's help this guy out. What can he do to tell or show her he loves her? Post a comment or email me if you have some long winded instructions.

Till next time, this is Kucing Gatal signing out with a caring Meow.

Blow him off

Dear Kucing Gatal,

My boyfriend and I started sleeping together about a year ago. Everything was fine until about 6 months ago when he started forcing me to give him blowjobs. Whenever we're lying on the bed and we start doing anything, he pushes my head down and holds my head until I do what he wants. I don't like doing it (maybe once in a while) but I know he really likes it. I told him before that I don't wanna do it anymore but he just laughs and says OK then does the same thing over and over again. What should I do?

Pls help,
Anti-BJ

Kucing Gatal says:

Dear Anti-BJ,

Your boyfriend is being a total jerk. No one should force you to do what you're uncomfortable doing, especially someone who claims to love you. Sex is meant to be enjoyable for both parties. If you've already told him you don't like it, and he still insists on forcing you, then you need to reconsider having him as your boyfriend. He seems to put his physical pleasure before your comfort, and that's really not ideal boyfriend/husband material.

You need to be tougher with him - tell him off firmly once and for all. If he still wants his bjs, leave him.

If I were you, I'd bite down ... HARD. It would serve him right.

Hope this helps,
Kucing Gatal

Till next time, this is Kucing Gatal signing out with a biting Meow.

Racist video

I'm not sure if this has been blogged about before, but I'm going to bring it up anyway.

Go to Google Video and type in "racist" (without the quotation marks) in the search box. Look at what comes out tops.

Nazri Aziz probably didn't expect to generate this kind of publicity for Malaysia with his stupid rantings.

Till next time, this is Kucing Gatal signing out with an anti-stupid-politicians Meow.

Uncertain about marriage

Dear Kucing Gatal,

I have a problem that I hope you can help me with. My boyfriend of 3 years proposed to me on New Year's Day and totally surprised me. We had talked about marriage before but he always seemed uncertain. So when the question came, it took me by surprise. But what was even more surprising was my response. I thought I'd be really happy and say Yes immediately, but for some reason I didn't feel elated.

I told him I needed to think about it, and the look on his face said it all. First he looked stunned, then disappointed. He left soon after and since then, whenever we meet or speak on the phone, he sounds distant. I don't know if I'm imagining it but I think he's really pissed off.

I really don't blame him because prior to this I had always been the one harping on marriage. I don't know why I reacted the way I did. But I have to be honest to myself, I think I was more interested in the prospect of marriage than being married to him. He's a great guy but there seems to be something lacking in our relationship. I don't want to lose him, but at the same time, I don't want to marry him until I'm absolutely sure.

Kucing, what should I do? Every time I think I want to tell him why I responded the way I did, no words come to mind - I have no idea what to say that can convey my feelings accurately without hurting him and making him leave me. Please help.

Yours sincerely,
KL Gal


Kucing Gatal says:

Dear KL Gal,

I truly sympathise - it's not easy being in your situation. You haven't told me what seems to be lacking in your relationship - is it excitement, or romance, or something else entirely?

I gather that your man has thought a lot about marriage and has made the decision that he wants you to be his partner for life, and so understandably, he is upset.

The only thing I can tell you is to be totally honest with him. I think you're right in waiting until you're absolutely sure, and so you have to tell him that. You also have to be open about your relationship with him, talk to him about what it is you want out of it, and what he can do to improve it. You should also be prepared for him to tell you how he feels and whether he wants you to change in some way.

There's really no easy way to solve this apart from communicating better with each other. Also, be totally honest with yourself - why is it that after three years, you're still not sure if you want to be with this man?

Talk to him, and let me know how it goes. Good luck!

Till next time, this is Kucing Gatal signing out with a candid Meow.

Back with a bounce

Hello all! I'm back and totally refreshed from my holiday, ready to face the new year with a positive outlook.

I hope you all had a great time these past couple of weeks. I received a few emails from troubled readers asking for advice and I shall post my responses up in the next couple of days or so - I need time to get back into my agony aunt role :)

During my holiday, my site got reviewed, and I've made some adjustments in view of the constructive criticism I received. For a start, this new blog template - I hadn't realised that the white font on black background was a pain to many - it looked fine on my PC until I asked a few people and they said it was a bit hard to read, perhaps due to their different resolutions.

I'm also doing away with my signature at the end of my posts - I gather you can all tell my mood from the post itself!

I've also gotten rid of the Google Ads as they weren't making me any richer. I'll stick to the old-fashioned way of making money - work till you drop.

Other than that, I'm still the same old Kucing Gatal :) My posts may be long but hey, I like being detailed as it adds so much more to the story being told.

I made a couple of resolutions this year- the first is to try and be more positive instead of moping about or grumbling about things that are within my control to change. The second is to eat more healthily - a lot more fruits and veggies this year! I've been bingeing on chocolates and fatty foods recently and it's time to give my poor body better nutrition.

Anyone made any weird resolutions this year? I wouldn't be surprised if many of you are making the same old resolutions you made 5 years ago - and still have no hope of keeping them.

If you can't keep it, don't make it, I say ;)